So what is your one singular act of daily indulgence?
Well mine is THE SHOWER!
I absolutely looove the shower. This is my one non negotiable act of selfie love. In fact, my love affair with the shower began many years ago as a young child growing up in West Africa.
Your typical tropical day in the southern part of Nigeria was blessed with the hot sun greeting your face early in the African morning skies . Ofcourse with this glorious morning sun also came the African heat that throughout the day easily left beads of sweat hanging onto the foreheads of children at play. Although as you get older, these sweat beads were no longer welcomed as they threatened to melt away your carefully applied face makeup aka pancake as the locals called it.
In addition to the heat of the tropical weather , the roads in the villages were mostly un tarred which allowed the dust from the earth to assault our clothing and bodies as it pleases. So by the end of the day, the shower offered a most attractive invitation to reclaim oneself.
Perhaps that was when I began to fall in love with the shower. I have even written about my search for the perfect shower after hiking Kilimanjaro with my family in an earlier blog called “ Home sweet Home”.
Anyways, back at home in Africa , I mostly took those lukewarm showers and at times begrudgingly had to take cold showers when there was no electricity to heat the water. I didn’t care for this type as much especially during the cold dusty harmattan ( aka West African winter months). Albeit , scientist have been discovering the many emotional benefits of taking cold showers but that is a story for another day.
My favorite things about showers begins with walking into the majestic presence of an aesthetically pleasing shower ambiance with a well adjusted water pressure. You hear the inviting sound of the excellent water pressure even before you feel it on your face and body….aaahhh .Glorious!
It’s your choice to keep your eyes open or closed as the perfectly temperature water pellets your body in a warm welcome . Now at times, the heat of the water maybe too much for your eyes that it reflexively squints in its presence. A wonderful time to allow your soapy loofah to explore your body while making foamy suds multiply, only to be rinsed away again by that warm refreshing liquid. Assuming you are NOT in a hurry (or worse still have someone else waiting on you to use the shower), then you can take YOUR time . So you better ENJOY it .
I like to pretend that nothing else is more necessary in the moment than being right here, present in this flow of hydrogen and oxygen as they awaken all my senses. I feel more and more alive with each stream of water hitting my face and hair. I mostly stand in the shower but have also enjoyed other alternative positions. In our home, I have shared playful showers or had my shower interrupted by the cry of a waking baby. Nonetheless, my love for this rectangular oasis keeps growing .
Perhaps this is because in the shower, my senses appear to have the best balance of calmness and vitality. Even the soaps smell more heavenly and the loofah definitely gets the itch right during a deliberate shower time .
My Brain appears more open to exploring thoughts, my heart more open to prayer and meditation, my daydream appears more productive , thinking of more meaningful ideas of expression, charity and love. My loved ones including my ancestors typically cross my mind during this state of contentment and I offer up prayers as they come to my mind.
Truly, there is a longing to remain right here in this wet moment , for longer than necessary, just because it feels so wonderful.
Then reality started to creep in or I hear one of my kids call out my name loudly across the house…. The sound of their voice jolt me out of my daydream or prayer and back to the reality of a Monday morning . I better get going to start making lunches for my 4 Littles.
Well , my dear shower , I suppose I shall leave your warm embrace for now until I return to you again at the end of the day.
Thank you for giving me a chance to love and be present with myself…. Thank you for my one singular non negotiable act of daily self love ❤️
I am curious what others ‘ singular acts of daily self love is? Share in the comments if you are brave enough, and if you don’t have one , then it may be time to acquire one . Whatever you choose , I hope you enjoy your acts of daily self love and that it helps you be a stronger, better version of yourself for others.
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