Some seasons of our lives feel heavier than others however motherhood is not typically seasonal. Once a mother always a mother , regardless of the season of life we may find ourselves .
Thankfully some days , we may feel like we are winning at this mothering thing, and then there are other days that I know that I feel like I’m frantically grasping for where the motherhood manual is hiding🤪
Typically those days feel exhausted with emotions, why am I loosing my patience? was I as supportive as my children needed me to be today, was I joyful in moments spent with them? was I firm enough in my instructions and guidance? did I get ANY time for my own self care.
Basically am I doing this mothering thing right?Perhaps you have experienced days like this yourself .
We could despair about days like those or we could look for strength through the hardships.
Luckily Enter the Holy Spirit!…complete with the gifts of the spirit to lighten our load and illuminate our path through motherhood.
I wanted to study the gifts of the holy spirit and how it’s application could enlighten my calling as a mother.
Here are the list of the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit wisdom, understanding, knowledge/counsel , right judgment, fortitude, piety, and fear of the Lord.
While each one , may have numerous definitions. According to Catholic.com, the following standard interpretation is based on the work by St Thomas Aquinas in the thirteenth century.
Here are some thoughts on how I am choosing to apply these gifts of the Holy Spirit , as a mother . Of course , this is a work in progress and I may need to re orientate and focus my eye on the prize many times over whenever I miss the mark.
◦ Wisdom is both the knowledge of and judgment about “divine things” . Pope Francis defines wisdom as ability to see everything through the eyes of God.
Therefore , knowing that God IS love, we strive to mother through the eyes of LOVE no matter the situation. This means mothering our children with all the descriptions of love as kind, patient , not envious…. never failing ( Corinthians 13:1)
◦ Understanding is essentially the ability to “see” God.
Yup! That means seeing God through the messy bedrooms , the siblings bickering and choosing to respond as we would to God. I guess it’s gonna be a bit hard to imagine loosing our patience and yelling at God to feed the dog …. hmmm.🙄
◦ Counsel allows a man to be directed by God in matters necessary for his salvation .
This means consulting frequently with God to help illuminate our path of motherhood so that we can be triumphant in our calling , all the way to the salvation of the souls of our children.
◦ Fortitude denotes a firmness of mind in doing good and in avoiding evil, particularly when it is difficult or dangerous to do so..
This means courage to do what is right. It means teaching our children courage to stand up for justice and for those who are oppressed.
◦ Knowledge is the ability to judge correctly about matters of faith and right action, so as to never wander from the straight path of justice (II/II.9.3).
Ultimately God is the giver of knowledge and wisdom. Using our “ wise “ mind requires constant consultation with God to assist in our daily discernment.
◦ Piety is, principally, revering God.
We should help our children develop a relationship and a loving reverence for God who is the creator of all things.
◦ Fear of God is, in this context, “filial” or chaste fear whereby we revere God and avoid separating ourselves from him—as opposed to “servile” fear, whereby we fear punishment (I/II.67.4; II/II.19.9).
Rather then having the type of fear that makes us want to hide shamefully from God, we should teach our children to allow them to develop a respecting and trusting relationship that deepens their connection with God.
While there is no motherhood manual , I am grateful that we can rely on these precious gifts of the Holy Spirit to help us transcend our human limitations ( John 14:23)
That certainly feels like WINNING in this beautiful yet , oh so demanding call of motherhood.
Happy International Women’s Day to all the strong mothers.. We salute you!💕
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