In every season give thanks – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

This season of my life has been hard.
I have been challenged by loss and grief.
Waking up to my First thanksgiving without my father physically present on earth is TOUGH!
To say I miss you is such an understatement 💔

I no longer have the casual opportunity to physically express my gratitude to him with my words, a hug,a plate of yummy thanksgiving cooking, or jocular conversations shared on a thanksgiving morning family walk on the trail to Stacy Parks.



My thoughts wonder deeply into an existential plane… What does your view from heaven look like now? Are you gathered in heaven with your parents and other family members enjoying great laughs with the communion of saints? Is food even a thing in heaven?
Now your image mostly exists in my mind and my heart. Your eyes always so full of love and I only imagine that this love is intensified from heaven now .
Therefore your love goes on.. even in death.
I am choosing to give thanks to God for this love and all the manifestations of that love in my life .
You see , because my Dad loved so freely, he also accepted and gave so freely this love.
My dad’s love and acceptance of my DH , despite our cultural differences, while some Naija parents would have given a side eye to an interracial marriage and therefore blocked blessings – he did not, and not only welcomed my DH with open arms but supported our union true and true.

This gift of love and acceptance has therefore abounded exponentially in my life in so many angles.

Wherever I look I can see the manifestation of love in my life .
I see it in you my DH, I see it in my children, I see in my mother and siblings, I see it in my wonderful Oma and Opa and extended family and in laws, I see it in my Dedes and my Dadas, I see it in my cousins and their children, i see it in my dog Teddy, I see it in my sweet friends , I see it in my HOLLA group, I see it in my WOW group , I see it in my work and the ability to provide mental health services to those in need, I see it in the opportunity to be living in a beautiful country with my roots extended from the great continent of Africa.

I see it in you ,my readers and I am grateful.
So yes, it’s a bittersweet thanksgiving , however I can still see so clearly the many reasons to give thanks.
I hope that you can look around you and your own unique circumstances and see reasons to be THANKFUL♥️🙏🏾

As always, thank you for reading my blog and of course I welcome your comments and any shared experiences .
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*DH ( darling husband)
*Dedes( Uncles ) Dadas(Aunties)
Keele… l have. Chills, tears as l read and look at the pictures.
It was just last year.
He looked like he had all the life in him
All l have wondered is why?
And l have also answered myself “God is bigger than all my questions “
May you find solace in the quality time you spent with him🤗
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Amen and thank you Dada Cali ♥️
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Happy Thanksgiving dear! He will forever be in your heart🙏🏾🦃🍁
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Amen and thank you 🙏🏾
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It gets better over time. It won’t be easy but I love love your perspective for that’s what I know your dad would want for you. Even through this and on this day, give thanks. May his soul continue to Rest In Peace amen.
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Amen and thank you 🙏🏾
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I enjoyed reading your blog, as usual. It did evoke several emotions. My heart aches for you all, as I have been down this path and can truly relate. Be strong in The Lord and the power of His might. He promised to never put more on you than you can bear. It’s truly a blessing that you have so many precious memories to hold on to. Time heals all wounds. Be encouraged, hold on to God’s unchanging hand and take one day at a time. May your dad rest in peace , as he looks down on all of you from heaven with a smile and much love from the Throne. My prayers are always with you and I love you all dearly!❤️🤗🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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Thank you Ms Pam❤️
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Beautiful memories life is in stages in all things we give thanks to God happy Thanksgiving dear 😊 ❤️
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Blessings to you my friend 💕
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It is well my dear. Dad is looking down on us all with love.
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amen 🙏🏾
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